Tuesday, February 21, 2017

Why We Make Goals


I myself have never been a very organized person....just ask my family. This year as many of you who have been readers know that we are on our journey to "simplify." I always adored the perfect looks of fellow bloggers home, and compared myself to them. Why cant I follow through with my goals like them? Why can't I keep a spic and span home ready for company at the drop of a hat? My list of questions was a mile long. I was making goals that were solely born from the guilt of not measuring up to others. I realized  how superficial I was being by comparing myself to someone else who number one I was not anything like and number two I needed to celebrate who The Lord created me to be. Goals are about being a good steward and cultivating what you have been given and where you are in life. I begin to look at my life and realized I was living the ultimate life that I had dreamt of as a little girl. I have an incredible husband, three beautiful children, and living the western way of life on the family ranch. We wanted for nothing. I realized that it was time to look at the big picture and to see where I wanted my family to be in the long run. It was time to do some serious soul searching and dig deeper than what I wanted my life to appear as. 

Today my feelings and prayers were reaffirmed as I listened to the Goal Digger Podcast that a friend had shared on Facebook. I strongly encourage you to take a listen, as a mom who seriously has a limited amount of time for anything extra Podcast have been wonderful. While I'm cooking, cleaning, folding laundry I'll turn a podcast on and indulge in being poured into. I wanted to share a few things that hit home with me through this podcast that I hope can help you in your goal setting. 
1) Goals may be for a season 
Wow, just WOW! I've never thought of this in my life. Your goals might be a new business venture or simplifying your belongings. All goals are not long term. Also you totally have permission to change your mind along the way to your goals of how you may go about achieving them. I also love the idea of refreshing your goals every few months. We as people change our minds and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Embrace your goals and don't be afraid of tweeking things in the long run. 
2) Look at the Big Picture
When making your goals think of how this will help your life actually be better and not just appear better. Where do you want to see yourself when you're 80? I know exactly where I want to be. I want in my rocker on the front porch keeping my great grandchildren and family dinners every Sunday. I want my life to always revolve around my faith and family. I encourage to always dig deeper when you're making your goals. This I feel has really helped me keep on track. I mean coming into March and I'm still on board...that's saying something for me. It's all about uncovering goals that are already there. 
3) Learning from the Past
Lessons we learn from the hard things propel us forward into what is next. Just let that set in for a moment. Just because we don't achieve our goals the first time we set out doesn't mean there was a reason God put that trial in your way. He may be wanting you to learn something to help you in the journey to acheiving. 
4) Finding Inspiration
The lady said that she was a personal trainer at one point. She had a male client that wanted to lose 20 pounds. She asked him why and he said because that's what he weighed in college. She said that wasn't much inspiration to keep going each day at the gym. She asked him to dig a little deeper as to why this was his goal. He came back to day because he wanted to walk his daughter down the aisle on her wedding day. Wow, now that's some inspiration. Instead of just wanting to look good in a bathing suit why not think of the big picture of being there for family. Be in the moment and make those memories. 

I hope this helped you as much as it did me. I feel so refreshed in my goals in knowing that there's much more than a set goal to comeplete, but a lifestyle change that will help me hang onto these fleeting moments with my husband and children. We will be able to look back and smile at how simple the times were and how we enjoyed each other. 

Monday, February 20, 2017

5 Steps to a Simpler Life


2017 has had it's up and downs...yes I know it's only February. But as a family beginning our journey to a simpler life it hasn't been a rose garden. We started the year with the best of intentions jumping head first  into simplifying our belongings. Then we were hit with three weeks straight of sickness that put a complete hold on our progress. This brought great stress as the house in my opnion was in "shambles." I began to feel defeated and frustrated. There has been a lot of trial and error in this journey, and I'm not saying that we've got it all done, because we still need to make a few more trips for donations and the dump. 

Although my intentions were to simplify our belongings it was laid on my heart that life itself was way cluttered and not by just belongings. I wanted to stop and take time to cultivate a deeper relationship with my children. It's hard to accept that I have five years to instill the values we want them to have as a foundation. Once they start school they will have complete strangers "raising" them as they will spend more time during the week with our children then we will. My husband and I have talked about how we want to make the most of the time we have by teaching them responsibility, respect for others and nature, cultivating what they have been given, and love. These are things that aren't evident to us in today's society. We want our children to grow up knowing how loved they are but knowing that they aren't entitled to anything and that honesty and hard work will get you somewhere. 

Even though we are in the beginning stages I have found five steps that have helped us get a foot in our goals for 2017 

1) No Technology
We do not own iPads, tablets, or gaming systems. We encourage them to use their imaginations by lots of time in their playroom and outside time. We have limited television time way back from what it has been in the past. They are allowed two sessions of controlled television time. 

2) Family Projects
You can make this as simple as you'd like. We started by baking cookies together and washing dishes while having a kitchen dance party. We made a volcano as a family yesterday from mud and grass. You would have thought that we were at Mount Vesuvius by their excitement. This also goes along with don't be afraid to make messes. I was told by a mentor mom that she wishes she would have realized that all messes can be cleaned up and to enjoy the memories being made instead. 


3) Practice Compassion
As a ranching family we have plenty of avenues to teach our children compassion. From loving one another to caring for all the animals on the ranch. We care for the horses as family. We feed, groom, and ride as a family. We also have cats and dogs that the kids are very hands on with. Pecos Jane loves that she has the responsibility of feeding and watering the cat. We all know how nice it feels to have a job and be appreciated for it. 


4) Be Adventurous 
The weekends have been devoted solely to family time. Even when it was cold we would spend time making paper airplanes and having contest with them. On these warmer weekends we have been fishing, hiking, riding ponies, picnics, and even having naptime in their tent and teepee in the yard. We are going to start a wildflower and bird watching journal this spring as well. 


 5) Spending more time at Home
I seriously have left the house about three times in the last three weeks. Spending more time at home is a huge help for us financially and in return we are more creative with our time. We always look for the adventure in our days and enjoy the simple things. With summer coming we have already began working on our spaces for our family garden. We have been picking weeds as a family. We talk about how much fun it will to be growing our own fruits and vegetables. Pecos says we will be like our own grocery store. I love to see the excitement we all share for this project. I can't wait to teach them more about hard work, responsibility, and cultivating what you have and multiplying it.